Condolences Money ("Pek Kim")

In Singapore, it is common for funeral guests to offer condolence money, often referred to as bai jin or pek kim in the Chinese community. 

While this gesture is not compulsory, understanding the proper etiquette can help you avoid unintended missteps. Here’s what you need to know: 

When preparing condolence money, one of the most common questions people have is, “How much should I give?” 

In reality, there is no fixed or binding rule. 

However, there are several factors you may wish to consider when deciding on an appropriate amount: 

• Your relationship with the deceased and/or their family: The closer the relationship, the more one may choose to give.
• The family’s financial circumstances: Consider whether the family may require additional financial support during this period.
• Your own financial situation: Give an amount that you are comfortable with and can reasonably afford.

In Chinese customs, condolence money is typically given in odd-numbered amounts, based on the first digit.

Common examples include $30, $50 or $100. 

This practice stems from the belief that even numbers are associated with auspicious occasions and celebrations, such as Chinese New Year or birthdays, and are therefore avoided in funeral settings. 

There is no fixed rule on when condolence money should be given. 

Most people typically offer it either at the start of their visit after paying their respects to the deceased or just before leaving the wake. 

Visiting guests may hand the money without an envelope directly to a family member they know. It is also acceptable to place the notes into the condolence money box, usually found on the reception table. 

The person at the reception table will record your name and the amount given, allowing the family to tally the total sum collected by the end of the funeral.